Tuesday, August 16, 2011
For the 48 hours after Kai came into our home, we were googling nearly every article imaginable about training dogs. (I love that my spell check recognizes the word "googling".) And over and over they talking about positive reinforcement... excessively praising their successes. Now I've heard this before- in line with both dogs and kids. But as I've been working hard to praise the dog- it has crossed over to me naturally praising our kids more when I see something good. And their response has told me two things: 1. Praise wins their hearts in a way discipline never can. 2. My kids don't get nearly enough of it.
Here is what I naturally do in my flesh. Kid makes a mistake- one that usually makes some work for me- like spilling milk all over the floor. I sigh, complain about having to clean it, try to make them clean it, get frustrated at how poorly they do it, then berate them for their clumsiness. I top it all off with stabbing verbal reminders all day for their one failure that morning in the kitchen. Gross, eh? And not at all a living example of the gospel.