|Chris lovin' on me by taking me to Sea World!|
I've been learning a lot about emotions lately. Mostly through my failure to recognize the wild beast that they are and go to battle. Rather I lay down and let them dominate me.
Offhandedly, Chris said, "The more you love, the more you love...ya know?"
When Chris mentioned this to me, I have to admit, I didn't know... at all. So he explained: "The more you love (verb), the more you love (adjective)."
Sort of profound. What comes out of my husband's mouth astounds me lots of the time. In a good way. We spend so much time expecting some sort of emotional feeling to drive our actions. No wonder marriages fizzle. But my husband just spent the last month and a half lovin' on me. He has given me love notes and gifts. Taken me out for dinner. Taken me to San Diego on a weekend getaway. And he sums up his end of the experience like this. "The more time I spend lovin' on you, and thinking about how to love on you, I fall more and more in love with you." I think God designed us this way. We were never intended to be passive receivers but rather active participants.
I need to practice this more. With my husband. With my kids. With my neighbors. If I want to love (adjective) someone more, I need to love (verb) them more. And honestly... I need a whole bunch of help when it comes to loving people.